Only I can kill the Ego

At times in our life, there’s something that hinders us from being naturally our self, happy, peaceful, friendly, polite, and humble. Might be the most crucial problem we face is the intellectual arrogance or the attitude or the way we perceive ourselves or the great little word EGO.

This pretty little word ego is a Latin word which means “I” is a psychological term derived by Freud “that part of us which is experienced in perceptive relationship with the outside world”. Until the ego is balanced and healthy everything is fine.
Otherwise the source of all emotional pain is Ego.

Disconnecting Ego is the hardest thing in one’s life. As and when we identify or recognize our ego it still becomes much harder to disconnect it and it causes only pain and nothing else.
Beware of the moment that ego takes over you, and let it not conquer you, rather anchor yourself in the present and turn off the mind. Laughing out loudly is simple joy and an easiest way to become ego less. Just honestly being you is another excellent mode of being ego less, not having to be some one, or to be accepted by some one.

We have to break up our assumptions about the world and start rethinking or rebuilding it keeping “I” out of it. So “I”decide the ego’s life. Life is magical, paranormal, mysterious and completely creative with full of experiences. Life’s experiences will help you to change the way of thinking about self. Instead of caring much about our own perceptions about ourselves, care about how others have perceived us.

If we continue with the great ego and not ready to crack it then, we just move further mercilessly stepping on others and hurting the emotions, minds and hearts of the people who are closer to us which I hope nobody would like to do. Keep in mind Ego is never permanent. It could be conquered, controlled, cracked and of course killed too. Only “I” can either kill or keep alive ego.

NORTH INDIANS Vs SOUTH INDIANS

October 24, 2007 — sharun

North Indians and their views about South Indians
· According to North Indians, if some one doesn’t know Hindi then he or she is a south Indian and is an anti-Hindi or an anti Indian. North Indians call them unpatriotic.
· As South Indians are couple of shades darker than North Indians, they feel fair people are smarter, and richer.
· North Indians make fun of South Indians for their color, looks, accent, and uncontrollably laugh when they spell out their names.
· North Indians do not even know that even in south India there are Hindus and other religious people and they assume that all south Indians are Christians and lift their eye brows if a South Indian say that he or she is a Hindu and they believe that anyone living in southern part of India is a madrasi.
· North Indians are mad about South Indian food Idli and sambhar and the only thing they’ll say proudly to others that they are fond of south Indian food.
· They have a sense of superiority than the South Indians in all attributes.
· In a nutshell North Indians feel that every thing about South Indians are funny.
· Finally they’ll ask a south Indian, “don’t feel bad, and are you a south Indian? Actually I don’t want to hurt you by asking this question” …hurting all the way.

But the fact is South Indians are more sincere and dedicated than a North Indian. They treat a North Indian like a special guest when he or she visits South India. Though the language North Indians speak is very funny to them, they never make fun of them. Might be south Indians are a couple of shades darker than North Indians but actually North Indians are fairer due to the deficiency of Melanin pigment. South Indians are too simple and soft spoken by nature.
Poor Gandhiji had to go to South Africa to get insulted for his dark complexion. It’s too simple to get the same result in his own motherland India when a South Indian visits Northern part of India.
We shout proudly that we live in a global village with a narrow-minded attitude. All this noise of South Indian and North Indian will come to an end only when we believe that it’s our Indian quality that binds us and not the regional bias and when we start thinking globally in the real sense.

missed call mystery

Happily confused about the missed call mystery ……what to do? I’ve the positive attitude to accept the missed call happily. When the mobile was bought, with great interest and pride, the mobile number was distributed to every other person whom I met. Initially when I received missed calls, I will call them back as they expect but when I received the bill I realized that I had to pay for many calls which I never intended to make. Now a days I don’t call them back until I know the number belongs to someone closer.

International calls cost more and one of my friends follow this missed call method to know the well being of her husband every day that if one ring missed call then if the other side also gives back an one ring missed call then both r safe no need to call and confirm wasting money. If it’s a two ring missed call then it has to be attended, as there is some problem to be discussed with.It was quite an innovative method within the family members to save money but this trend has been quickly picked up by individuals to save their own money.

Very funny things happen with these missed calls; friends give missed calls on birthdays, festivals, so that we have to call them back to get the wishes.How ridiculous? I accept also as a fool the reasons told by them for the missed calls as some network problems in the area. But how long? Come on guys ….don’t just miss calls….just call also sometime…..

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A Well Written Piece

December 7, 2007 — sharun

To write a well-written piece it requires a high degree of creativity, some researching skill, a very good range of vocabulary and a complete knowledge of the subject. A well-written piece should have a distinct beginning, a logically leading middle and an impressive and hopeful conclusion. It’s not necessary for a well-written piece to have artificial, ornamental and bombastic words but it should be with variety of words woven around the specific theme or idea.

A well written piece can be called as an article if it is thought provoking, to the point and with an appropriate style to catch hold the attention of the readers.

BOY’S ZONE

December 10, 2007 — sharun

The road to manhood is tough and challenging.It’s high time that boys realize it.Actually boys do not have more heroes to follow or worship except cricket stars and film heroes.Cricket stars have lost their charm after the match fixing scam.We donot have any positive heroes to guide the adolescent boys.

To appear more macho,to get hold of as many number of girl friends are the immediate goals of these adolescent boys and every now and then they try to find out innovative methods to show their control over these things.Adolescent boys always have a fear of losing control over matters and always want to be the boss of the situations.Result leading to hitting class mates,getting drunk,involving in anti social behaviours,gang activities,carrying knives and bunking classes which leads to poor grades.They get easily impressed by law breakers.

They are more obsessed with their self image and 90% of their time spent on to acquire muscles and to become an ideal hero.
Adolescent boys have a fear of able girls as they outshine in every field.They even compare the status of their father’s with their mother’s as now they have executive mothers at home competing their fathers.

There are multitude avenues to distract the attention of the present day students . But the same multitude avenues make them more smarter and intelligent than the previous generation.

Adolescent boys need some one to touch the emotional chord and to identify their pitfalls and to guide them accordingly.Of course 90% of this social responsibility lies with the teachers.It’s their duty to assure the boys that they can do better than girls and they can face the girls zone bravely and to cheer up the boys…”come on boys you are no less than them”

THOSE STEMLESS FLOWERS

April 18, 2008 — sharun

The flower seller very keenly making bouquet.Rashi stood there watching him silently.He picked out all the stemless flowers and kept aside.Slowly she went near the flower seller and asked “sir, wy are you not using those stemless flowers?”

Flower seller replied….”these are stemless and so useless….I cannot use them to make bouquet”

Then Rashi asked,”Can I have those stemless flowers sir?” Flower seller replied…”why not?” and gave all the stemless flowers to Rashi.

Then he asked “but what will you do with them?”

Rashi replied” but sir, I can keep those stemless flowers on the feet of my god and you know sir even I am stemless ” and she started walking with her caliphers…
The flower seller watched her going with tear filled eyes……

THE CHALLENGERS OF A TEACHER!

March 10, 2008 — sharun

1.The students who wait for the slip of the tongue of a teacher

2.The students who know more apart from the syllabus

3.The students who enjoy a severe punishment.

4.The students who laugh even when a teacher is rude and harsh.

5.The students who write about wold history when asked about organic chemistry.

6.The students who write one line answer for an essay type question.

7.The students who spend 75% of the time inside the toilet.

8.The students who yawn as soon as the teacher starts teaching.

9.The students who help a teacher with words when the teacher is in search of one.

10.Ofcourse the back benchers and front benchers!!!

FEAR OF LOSING

March 4, 2008 — sharun

Fear of losing anything…it might be an examination,might be a job or a love life may drive anyone to take that extreme desperate step…SUICIDE
That too when this affect a student’s life there is an extended worry of getting into depression.The great question infront of the educators is “how to deal with this?”
We often forget to inform the studentsd that the great achievers made their foundation on the mistakes they made during their beginning stage.We have the responsibility to inform the students that behind every success there’s not only hard work but also failures and errors.
It’s the educator’s duty to instil the value that failure is never a phase to hide in your life.But face it with courage to say the world “I failed just to make my base or foundation stronger”.
And educators, please give the students room to err …..as erring is the key which opens the door to perfection.

CITIZEN TO NETIZEN

January 17, 2008 — sharun

Global connection has become easy for anyone with a cheap, less powerful computer and an Internet connection to become a full-fledged “netizen”. Being a netizen is a profoundly cool opportunity that I think is the most exciting venture through which you can conquer the world. People completely feel empowered when they are connected to net. Net does not belong to any person or group but it opens a world of information which is accessed by millions of people every second. It is this fundamental change that has the best hope of driving the human world around information and knowledge.

If you don’t want to play a game with an interactive player rather wish to play with a virtual player …a silent player who accepts everything without a question even if they want to leave the game in the midway then………

If you don’t want to socialize and hesitate to attend parties, meet friends, and people then….

If you spend more time with the machine and less time with human then………

If you talk about blogging, browsing and different sites always then……

If you have lost interest in newspapers, magazines, and T.V programmes then………

If you refer wikipedia even for a simple word then……

If you type in a feverish pace then……

If you whisk off from page to page within seconds with a click then……

If you think about a home page when someone asks you “ are you not going home?”

THEN CONGRATULATIONS!

YOU HAVE TRANSFORMED TO A FULL FLEDGED NETIZEN FROM A CITIZEN

DO WE HAVE TIME???????

January 5, 2008 — sharun

All was well untill he was
fallen into a well
at 11 years……
The well which has stolen his
well being……..

Lost his legs
lost his feelings below stomach…
paralysis below chest….

with his hands and still alive soul,
he tries hard not just to live….
but also to make a difference…
to achieve something…

Like a cacoon of a butterfly
he lies on a bed in a room
half-closed eyes filled with tears.
The world moves as he stays still.
Staring at the plain bedroom wall.

let this not alone…….
father’s demise…..
mother’s year long sickness….
financial problems…..
are in a line to trouble…..
The angels that showered kindness are….his sisters…..thro’ out with him to still take care of him
just like a baby…..
I mean it……..
just like a baby……
giving him bath,cleaning his waste and everything…..

Pain forever with him never leaving.
It stays with him forever.
like winds in no direction…..
he is in search of an online job
to earn money to meet his needs.

He doesn’t ask for sympathy,
he doesn’t ask for heavens,
he just wants
an ear to listen to him,
a shoulder to share his burdens,
a soul to share his feelings,
a heart to understand him,
a chance to show his talents,
some time to spend with him….

It takes moment by moment
to mend his broken soul….

you and I can help him
to mend his broken soul……
to find his lost soul……
to light up his life….

yet another chance for you
to introduce yourself to god by
helping this god’s child….

“BUT DO WE HAVE TIME????????”

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Chennai 600052
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That extra golden hour!

December 31, 2007 — sharun

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The best time that any wise man makes use of, to spend time in the way they want will be early morning or late night. This extra time is the golden hour anyone has to find out to practice the passion. This is the good time to recharge your mind to do the things which you like the best. A golden time to be with your own self

How to get that extra golden hour? That is a great challenge….If we are better organized and plan the schedule in the right way we could get that extra golden hour everyday. Reduce sitting in front of the idiot box for longer hours and hanging with unwanted phone calls. Be polite and avoid someone wasting your precious time. Plan out your tasks and try to finish it before time and save your golden time.Stop rolling on the bed before time.Here are some ways to spend that extra golden hour….

A good time to put on your thinking cap to write a poem, a piece of article about the topic you like the most. In fact, it can be used to clear your head and focus better on the tasks at hand for the next day. Spend that golden time for self-analysis. The golden hour can be used to learn a new skill which is pending for a long time. The golden hour also can be utilized to read a lot and of course to practice your passion.Finally have some free time to relax also.

TAKE TIME FROM THE TIMELESS WORLD

December 26, 2007 — sharun

The scarcest commodity in the world is time. Our life is dominated by time. We are all in a hurry, fixing a digital clock in our brain, let it be finishing a work, taking a decision, making a relationship, breaking a relationship, or ending a life, everything finalised within five minutes.
Admittedly everyone believes there is very little time to do extra work apart from the regular routine work. As the adult world is never time-conscious it is difficult to introduce the time concept and time- consciousness to the student world. The students should learn to beat the clock to accomplish multitudinal task within the specified time. Students who achieve this skill will be the highest achievers in all walks of life. Planning, prioritizing and focusing a task will help us to manage time. Wake up students…let the clock ticks and let the timeless world gives you time to do tremendous things in your life.

GIRL’S ZONE

December 24, 2007 — sharun

Present day girls have new priorities and perspectives. They are extremely ambitious and outshine boys in all the spheres of life. They finish even a wrong argument in style. They are the super models of the world. They readily realize their potentials and are able to contribute to the mainstream of society. They consider friendship as the most rewarding and satisfying of all human relationships at this stage and these relationships are built primarily based on studies.

Friendships can be a source of both knowledge and strength for adolescent girls. They can also be a source of struggle, hurt, and confusion, particularly as girls move into adolescence. There are multitude avenues to distract the attention of the present day students. But the same multitude avenues make them more smarter and intelligent than the previous generations.
The overall picture of girls and women’s education is one of limited opportunity, numerous obstacles and questionable quality and relevance. But the good news is that new generations of girls represent the most promising source of change for women—and men—in the developing world today. Though the road to womanhood is tough and challenging, the girls are aware of it and they are able to overcome the barriers in their path and become successful in many walks of life.

READING IS THE GREATEST VICTIM

T.V the idiot box, the infotainment media and the most wanted gadget of the present generation has affected the thinking capacity of the whole mass. No body is left out by its influence. The most affected is the student generation. Even the adults reading account remain zero books every year as they too have dropped the reading habit We will be astonished to know that on an average we spend a year for every 10 years watching T.V.

Apart from all the other impacts the greatest impact is the blow on the reading habits of students. As students are addicted to take the matters with audio-visual effects, they are not ready to take print media, which they consider as the dullest media to hang around. It’s high time we realized the importance of reading habit, otherwise we will be responsible for creating a remote leading, non-creative and brain blocked generation.

HAPPINESS IS AN INSIDE AFFAIR

Happiness should never be confused with fun. Fun is what we feel at that moment, when we do something, which gives us pleasure. But happiness is the ever lasting feel, which we get when we accept challenges and achieve success. When we relax and enjoy we have fun. But when we undergo pain and get satisfaction we attain happiness.
                         Happiness is an internal circuit, which gets electrified when the circuit is complete with contentment. Neither money nor ego can make this internal circuit complete and get electrified.
                      
                       Happiness is an inside affair as it’s your mindset that defines happiness and determines the path to attain that. The miraculous gift of mind is happiness and happiness is a long-term pursuit. Doing something contributing to the society or to the nation holds the promise of a world of happiness.